How Insecurities play Devil’s advocate
- shaniaoconnor
- Jul 17, 2020
- 2 min read
Updated: Sep 30, 2023
It's weird how we let our insecurities control us.
Insecurities live within each and everyone and if you don't have them then good for you. People make money off of your insecurities.
We are stuck between two parts of us asking us to be confident and believing in ourselves or just listening to a person let us know in an indirect way that we aren't good enough.
Humans as a species consist of this particular emotion called envy. She looks so pretty or his muscles are so much better. Why do we put ourself down? Yes, they may look better in their own way but you look good and amazing in your own way.
In this world, I guess, it's 70% mainly based on outer appearance. Well, it is human nature since the beginning of time where the fairest maiden of all is the prettiest or the most built man is the protector or more appealing. Deep down we still refer to those norms and abide by them.
Why do we let insecurities guide us? Lower our confidence? Make us feel less of ourself?
Where exactly does this start?
Let me tell you how insecurity begins...
A close person or even a stranger comes up to you and tells you your not good enough or you look funny or your not as smart.
2. You contemplate these details and rehash them again and again until you start subconsciously telling yourself you indeed are not good enough or not worth it.
3. Once you make yourself believe that you make snarky and sarcastic jokes degrading yourself or your body.
4. You make others notice it more and then they feel it's okay to say it.
5. And the cycle carries on leading to depression, pain and anxiety.
It’s like a never-ending ouroboros.
Why do you let someone either a stranger or a close person tell you, you're not good enough? They don't know what you're capable of... They most definitely do not define you.
Be your own person, don't let your insecurities rule you, you live only once and letting your insecurities guide your way will lead you to a life filled anxiety and will limit you from what you are meant to achieve.
You don’t have to control your thoughts you just have to stop letting them control you.
Insecurities are just not product of people's criticism or thier well art of letting other down knowingly/unknowingly.It is a mirror more to our inner week state to believe and be defined in thier way. Word of wisdom is just for recite," reveal your inner beauty".So let other be wasting their time in finding faults in you.Dont forget this ever,"Real beauty lies in you"
Being an artist I often come across my insecurities . Seeing other artists of the same peer doing so much better than me is somewhat heartbreaking. And then it highlights all my insecurities . But I've also learnt that embracing your insecurities is so much better than crying over them.Because not everybody has the same amount of everything. We're humans and we are bound to have flaws and shortcomings, The only lesson I've learnt over these years is " Don't kill yourself over your insecurities, you're unique and beautiful in your own way."
It's too important. Don't give in to your thoughts, they aren't always your own...
I think insecurity is part of the Battle from which we emerge stronger than ever. Induced by overthinking.